As I looked at the mirror today, I think I gain more weight. Ha ha, I realize I used to panic on this kind of thing. I blame it to the season. Yeah winter weight, it is so annoying when winter comes. You just can’t stop eating. You crave for this and that. You went to the supermarket and you end up adding cookies, chocolate and chips in your shopping trolley, instead of following your grocery list. I know! Forbidden foods in girl’s agenda.
We panic when we gain weight. Girls are afraid they will turn to unattractive girls. Coz we have the perspective that guys love girls who looks beautiful, attractive, skinny and sexy. But, do you really know what is in the mind of your guy?
I ask my boyfriend once what he finds attractive from me. He answer, he loves my fingers. He finds them sexy. He love my hair, He likes the way I looked at him and how I smile. He loves how it feels when he hugs me. He never thinks that my belly is too chubby. I started to think why he didn’t think I was too chubby in the belly? My friend told me, guys sometimes like a little bit fat. They like something they could hold. They don’t want to hug a skeleton.
Did you ever knew that they find it adorable that you care about the way you look but it doesn’t mean that they demand you to change? They feel disturbed when you got all paranoid about how you look.
I wish that all girls could see the meaning of "guys likes beautiful girls" from a different perspective. You don't have to look like supermodel to be beautiful. let's categorize them as goddess instead. But, What is beautiful? It is how you dress and how your personalities are. How you look healthy and glow. It is how your eyes glare. What is attractive? It is how you smile and how you laugh. How you see life and how you think. How you walk and talk. How you pampered your self not how you torture yourself. It is how comfortable you are about yourself.
I read an article the other day. There is a statistic that shows how many girls try to do a strict diet and force them self to the gym just to lose weight. They cut down their foods and try to eat small portions or even once a day. They avoid eating deserts or sweets. But, then I started to wonder why do girls went all those things just to be skinny? Do you feel afraid that you will be breaking up with your guy because how you look?
Believe me sometime I get paranoid about that as well. Once, I ask my boyfriend does my thigh looks big. He said it would be better if it were little smaller and tight. I laugh; I said thanks and I’ll try to make it smaller, which I don’t know how. But then I said to him, he also has to try living with these ones as well. I find it adorable how he tries to let me know and be honest. But, I could see how uncomfortable he is for being honest to me. It doesn't mean that we are going to break up because of it. Do you know why I did that? I just want to know what does he thinks about me physically.
I know every guy have different opinions and taste if it comes to girls. Maybe some guys are pretty demanding. What girls need to do is to communicate on what your guy thinks on how you look. Try to make a giggle out of it. As long as you try to take care of yourself and hopefully they will appreciate it. By the end of the day if you feel comfortable and take a good care on how you look, your guy will feel the same. If they can't tolerate. Don't even bother to stay with a guy who doesn't appreciate for who you are. You did try to take care of yourself anyways.
Hey! we are humans’ nobodies perfect. We are beautiful as god made us. Just take care our self, but don’t over do it. Spoil and pampered our self, but do control it for your own health.
What’s wrong with a little fat if it makes you healthily beautiful?
