I read a phrase; you have to learn to love yourself before you can learn to love someone else. By loving your own self you will search for someone who could treat you just right coz you know who you are and you know how you want to be treated, you just know what you need. Do you agree?
The greatest loves for me are; the love of god to us, the love between you and the people you called family, and there is two other loves that matters for me: 1. is the love that you have for yourself 2. is the love that you get from someone else, your someone special.
But did I learn to love myself before I meet my Mr. Right? I am not that sure.
You may ask your self these questions below: Who is my “someone special”? When will I meet him/her? I ask those questions to myself as well. I was searching for the best guy. Then I realize that I will meet a guy and I will search in the market again for someone that is better. The search for “the best guy” will take forever. I learn to know myself. Afterwards I know, I want the right guy and not the best. I want a guy that "click" with me not just the best in the market. The search for the right one is a surprise. The right man is the man who could flip you, just in a blink of an eye. Do Mr./Mrs. Right really exist?
My coffee and I were In a relationship long time ago. It was on our junior high time. We broke up. But then we turned out to be one of close friends for one another. Inside our close friend relationship, we never thought that a deeper love was hidden and growing. After the first break up and knowing each other more as close friends, we realize we were blind. We didn’t realize that we are two different piece of puzzle. We are two pieces that fits. Surprisingly, we have been in 1 same box for so long.
I wish what’s best for me. If he is the best one for me, then let it be. If it’s not then let me be strong to walk and move on. And all I do after is to keep on wishing, trying, patient and walk slow as I try to read my signs, as I learn to be aware of my instinct. I believe everything has their own times and reasons. 2007 begin, we bind our relationship again. And this time we hope and try to keep it for forever.
He is the man that could talk to me in the right way. He could calm me in my worst days. He is a gentleman. You might say in the beginning of a relationship you could only see the beautiful part of it. After a while the flaws will come to the surface. Well that’s true. I said that in one of my previous blogs as well. You may ask, then what is so special about this one?
It is a pleasure to look at him while he is sharing all his passion. He have a different glare in his eyes when he is talking about photography, he have a different glare when he is playing the guitar, he have a different glare when he is talking about planes and he have different glare when he talks about dream and life. He has a special glare when he looks deep into my eyes. If you are I, you will feel the warmth. You just can feel the care. You can see that he cuts deep into you. He makes me stumble when he looks at my eyes. It just shakes me to the core and made me all weak.
He is a man that I adore. He have the will, he have a vision. He is the guy that sees his future and tries to map his next step as he walk through life. He is an open minded man. It’s just beautiful how he can send messages through his eyes. It’s always fun when we communicate with our eyes. He is my gentle and fun guy. Well anyways, yesterday I wrote a blog about how my relationship with “my coffee”. Today I’m introducing to you “my coffee”. I’m sharing with you the ingredients inside him.
He love airplanes, he love photography and he love movies. He love “Calvin and Hobbes”, he love guitar and he love the band called “The Cake”and "Weezer". He likes to read. He love tequila, he is cute when his drunk. He loves to drink coffee when he wake up. He love his family. He love his pets, and he went “nuts” when he sees dogs and cats. He loves the color green, and Intermilan is his soccer team. He has a special way to stand when he brushes his teeth (I found this one so cute). He likes rum raisin ice cream. He is not that much of a fan for tuna. But actually he’s flexible when it comes to food. He turns silent when his hungry (he looks so funny). He is not a fan of warm weather. He prefer the weather when it’s cold or chilly. He keeps his feet out of the blanket while he sleeps even it’s a cold night. He love to help me in the kitchen when he is around.
He find it hard to say “no”. He is a "silent" guy if you meet him for the first time. He will silently learn about you as you talk. He has a special way when he looks at people. He is sensitive and thoughtful. He is patient and understanding. He is not that open till he trusted you. You got to find a right way just to approach and made him to say what is/are on his mind. he is a great listener and a problem solver. He know how to send his opinion. He is wise and charming. he has taste and he has his own style. He has his own scent and sweet lovely smile. He is smart and has a high curiosity. I love to ask questions and discuss complicated things with him. By end of the day we share more than we hope for. We could discuss from politics to religion, from life happiness to problems, from jokes to serious things. We could discuss about dreams to many things. We could go on and on and keep exchanging opinion. We could go on for the whole day. He could comfort me even I’m miles away, he could make me smile even if he is in the other country. There are still many things about him I couldn’t list it all. He is everything. And the most important thing is what he are is not so different as I am. It's weird but it's true.
Well I don’t mind how you think. Just wanted to share why the “colorful glare coffee” (I have been waiting for so long) is so special. It’s just lovely when you are in a relationship that you know he/she love you as you are. By the end, the right one will turn into the best eventually.
After I write so many, I started to wonder, Do we really need to learn to love ourself to find someone that is right? Will we be introduce to the word LOVE after you have learned to love yourself?
