When I woke up today I had this weird thought and it shocked me. I am in a relationship with someone that I patiently wait to come. Yes everybody! I am proudly to announce that I am leaving the store and enjoying my coffee, for I am done waiting. I finish my 1st journey book and I’m starting a new one. I got what I want. My coffee! He is my special someone that I will enjoy as I strut proudly back in the journey of life. He is my sweet company. He is the mixture of every single thing. Not so sweet, not so bitter, not so creamy and not so hot neither cold. He is the mixture of right or I should say Mr. Right. He could make me laugh, he could make me cry, and he could say the right things when things went wrong.
I started to realize another thing; we start this relationship by having a long distance relationship. We are not too far from each other. Even in the world map, the countries we are living in are next to each other. But, it couldn’t be denied that we are in different countries. It’s fine for me and I hope it goes the same way for him. I believe, it makes us appreciate more on the times we have, times when we get the chance to be together to cure all the misery that is famously known as “missing each other”. We try to create as lovely time as we could, so that those memories could be a company when we are far away from each other. I heard people told me long distance relationship barely work. I started to wonder, is that phrase true?
I try to think harder is it true that people avoid misty woods and surrender easily to promising island instead? Are most people tired of trying also believing and give it up to faith instead? Do people prefer something on the recipe book instead of making their own invented meal from scratch? Do people prefer something seen by their eyes than taking risk to search something that is invisible for a while and it's actually right in front of their eyes? Do people prefer things with guarantee? Well there are many things should be questioned about people in the world. It is all depends on the principles that they hold.
Somehow most people that I know, they are more cynical than they used to be. I could say, most of the time they barely remember the words hope and believe. They ran away from things that are to vague. They went for things that they think are safe. But then, their heart actually prefer the adventure for something that is worthier. Is it true we better play it safe than taking extra risks?
Well I couldn’t say that is wrong. It may be a right thing to do for other department in life. But, in love life and friendship, I guess those theory and practice should not be done in most things. Life it needs sacrifice.
You can throw questions such as; do you really trust your partner; aren’t you scared that he/she will cheat on you? Don’t you ever feel afraid that he/she will meet someone else that is better than you? Well imply that to yourself and think. Don’t you think that your partner have the same fear in their minds? SO now what? The answer is honesty, trust and try to do the right thing. You have to trust your partner, be honest to what you think and try to keep yourself in track. For example, you feel he/she is cheating. Don’t judge that he/she is doing all the cheating. But, let them know what you are thinking, if you are scared that they are, then let them know.If, you are listening to your partner that they are scared that we are cheating, don’t feel judge by them but comfort them. If you are cheating, then realize it before it's too late, be honest and ask for apology. Some say once a cheater then they always are a cheater. The cheater tag could be cut off. It’s all about the click. You can measure it with feelings and thinking rationally. Communicate well. It’s a 2 way street. It has to be in balance. Okay, I guess I’m spinning here, I’m repeating myself and making you confuse so I’ll break it down for you in a conclusion. Would long distance relationship work?
There is a slight difference between a long distance and close relationship (I might call). But, the bottom line is both of the relationship could work perfectly. Relationship is part of life. They have the same basic theory and that is do things right. Communicate right. If you trust him/her then trust them right. If you don't trust him/her then tell them why you don't and try to trust them. If something bad happened, give them another chance don’t give up on it. If you really care you'll remind him/her. If you fail at work you’ll hope for a second chance and you hope your co-workers and boss will trust you again. It is the same in a relationship with your love ones. They or you may slip and made some mistakes. We are neither angel nor babies that are pure and clean. We are covered with scar, with flaws. To be alive is to learn. Learn to forgive then learn to trust again. If the mistake keeps repeating then it’s your rights to make the call either to end or be understanding and live with it.
I believe my relationship to work. Why not? There is no reason not to. In life we have to push forwards not standing still, we have to learn to stand up when we fall. We have to learn to stand tall as high as we could without forgetting to keep our feet on the ground. If you want to see life from one side, life is difficult at the present when you are facing the problems. And from the other side life is simple, how difficult could it be, coz obviously we will get through. As long I appreciate what I have with him, as long I remember what I went through to reach him, and what is my reasons, my feelings, and consideration till I decide to be in a relationship with him. These feelings and thinking goes for him as well. As long we are in the same page and try to make the best of it, then why not? we care and we hold each other hands. We click! I could say distance should not be a problem. Everything happens for a reason. It’s how we handle the distance that’s matter. The way we communicate that effects. How we spend our times together (in the best way that we could) cover the times when we are apart and it will decide. If we try to do things right what worst could happen. I know we will get through it perfectly. Just him and me.
