I was chatting with my brother this afternoon. He was babbling about his love life. It has been a while since the last time we up date each other. I was reading my little brother story. He was telling how sad he is waiting for his lady to stop playing around. Somehow that gal still fooling around with other boys, in the same time she promise my brother that she is coming back with him. It doesn't really matter about the details. Main point is that I started to realize how come the problem that his facing is almost the same as mine?
I believe that everybody have the same main line in life. We are expected to deal and learn for the same messages in life. However, the problem may happen in a different ways and in different time. But as I said it should have the same main message to be learn. Another point that we should remember is that we have our own way to deal with those problems. Then I started to wonder how actually we could deal with it? Does this modern life have its own effect on how we deal with our love life?
People sometimes act so desperate when it deals with love. Especially with all the pressure from this modern life and lifestyle, love life started to turn somewhat depressing as well. Most people still have the patience to believe that every “Adam” could find their “Eve” or the other way around. You started to mess up your life and somehow that show your desperate situation. Are we in a denial that we actually do hope for someone? Your friends try to find a solution to your pain or you started to make your self busy to deny the need of someone next to you. By the end of the day you realize even more, that no one special is next to you. You don’t really have someone walk with you hand in hand through all of your pain. I ask my self again, do I really need someone else next to me? Is it that hard to be single?
I use to be the girl that deals with all the balls that are juggling in my life by sitting still. I try to catch it one by one in silent. As I grow older by time. I change the way I view and solve it all. I ask people to juggle with me and help me clean the mess I am in. I started to catch more than one ball in one time. I lost my way to solve my problems. I ask them for advices, I ask people for comfort and all. Then I started to think, do we really need somebody when maybe you can fill that somebody place by yourself?
The answer is always in you. Someone else in your life could be the ornament for a Christmas tree. The ornaments may make the tree looks beautiful. Even without it, the tree shows the same feeling for people who looks at it. It is still a beautiful tree for Christmas, but it wouldn’t be perfect. Then I started to wonder, is that one of the way we deal with life?
I notice there are many ways to deal with life. As I always said the decision will be ours to decide. We learn to make a decision since we are young. There are many decisions we did take and we will take. As we grow older the decision demands a full focus before it take place. We may need some inputs to find the right decision. There should be a risk to be face afterwards, a sacrifice, and strength to take that decision. However I started to wonder how long and strong a person could stand for their Deal and Decision?
